8 Steps on How To Tell your Family You Are a Muslim

I know there are many ways that you can tell your family you are Muslim. I know that you should not do what I did and wait. I waited as long as I could. I tried to avoid the topic of religion as much as I could. I was even able to hide I was Muslim from my family when I was wearing the hijab.

1. Know the Frequently Asked Questions Muslims Get, and Try to Not be Defensive

You may be the only Muslim your family knows or will ever know, so, be ready to get asked plenty of questions about Islam. If you feel you don’t know the answer, just tell them you don’t know the answer, but you can find out for them. It’s better you teach them and tell them about Islam, than them finding out from other places. The media has many has many places that post horrible things and lies about Islam. So, try to teach them yourself. Show them the religion you fell in love with. Also, you will get plenty of stupid questions so try not to get defensive all of the time.

Just to name a few, here are some questions you can expect: Why don’t you eat pork? Why do you pray that way? Why do you wear that thing on your head? So you do not believe in Jesus anymore? Who is Allah?

2. Take a Friend With You

It’s difficult to face your family alone. If you can bring a close friend or your spouse/significant other, that would be beneficial.

3. Tell Your Family You Want to Stop talking about Islam

Your religion will always be the elephant in the room. There will come a time when you’re overwhelmed with constantly talking about religion. You will become extremely sick of your family not being able to see you as the same person. You will get frustrated your family thinks the only thing about you is your religion. If you get too overwhelmed, like I did, you will have to put your foot down and let them know that you don’t want to talk about religion anymore.

3. Let Your Family Know You are Still You

It seems like when we convert we get treated different by family members and friends. For some reason, people cannot see past the scarf you wear, your new religion, the new way you pray, stopped drinking, or the fact that you no longer eat pork or bacon.

4. Do Not Wait Too Long

I know it’s difficult and awkward to talk to your family about this. I recommend that you rip off the band-aid as soon as possible. I hid this from my family to protect them. I was worried about what they would think or say. I also did not want to tell them I converted to Islam until I was practicing. I did not start practicing until a year and a half after I converted.

Want to know how I told my family? I never directly told them. I ended up making a video about my conversion story four years after converting and then posting it on YouTube.

5. Be Honest

Tell them why you converted or how Islam makes you feel. I know that my grandma told me that she saw Islam made me a better person, though she wishes I was still Christian. She saw that choosing and practicing Islam changed me for the better.

Of course your family will be shocked at first. If they do not truly care about you, or have your best interest at heart after you tell that Islam is better for you mentally and spiritually, etc. they may not be worth your time. Islam makes you happy. So, if you are happy, they should be happy for you. It is normal for a family member to tell you that you are going to hell. I had to block or delete many family members from social media because they had accused me of being a terrorist or other horrible things. You don’t need that kind of negativity in your life.

6. Expect the Worst

If you have read any of my previous blog posts, I don’t sugarcoat advice. You should expect the worst. As one of my friends told me in regards of advice to telling your family of your conversion, “When chairs start flying…. duck”. I doubt this will be the case, but you never know.

7. Don’t Be Scared

Telling your family about your new religion is not the end of the world. No one is dying. You are still alive and the same person. Yes, it will be hard to tell them but the sooner you can be honest with them, the more time you will give them to heal and get used to the idea.

8. Live By Example

I didn’t tell my family I was Muslim right away because I thought I wasn’t good enough or practicing. You don’t have to do that. To best represent Islam, just act nice and show them that Islam made you a better person.


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